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Don’t Set Up Tests of Trust

Trusting children seems to be a significant factor in building their self-esteem. Children sense when you are testing them. A test of trust proves there is little or no trust. Rather be confident that mutual trusting, which in extended process, will grow naturally as your knowledge of each other grows. Trust-growth happens most naturally when you and the child are …

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Encourage Children To Talk To Other Adults

It is sometimes helpful to redirect children with high emotions to a third person. Children’s self-Esteem can be strongly threatened when they must deal directly with the people with whom they are highly emotionally involved. Parents are often unable to view their own children objectively. This realization became clear to me when I taught first grade and had my daughter …

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Don’t Burden Your Child with Over-Expectation

“We will not accept anything less than 85% from you in the finals”… “You’ve been learning for 2 years, why didn’t you win the first prize?”… “We want you to become a doctor, you’d better get good marks in science”… “I can’t believe you forgot your lines on the stage. It was so embarrassing for us.”… How many times have …

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Don’t Worry Be Happy

The old wives tale about cheerful women delivering healthy babies seems to be true. The American Psychological Association has announced research showing that optimism can reduce the chance of delivering low birth weight or pre-term babies for medically high-risk pregnant women. Psychologist Marci Lobel and her colleagues examined 129 pregnant women between 20 and 43 years old who were considered …

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Doing A ‘Mango’ On A Picky Eater

For about a million moms ‘out there’, the most dreaded time of the day is mealtime. Breakfast, lunch or dinner, the litany starts: Mom — Come and eat. Kid — What’s made? Mom — Rice, dal, beans, salad, curd. Kid — Yuck. I’m not hungry. Mom — What? You just said you were starving. Kid — If it’s dal and beans, I’m not hungry. How about …

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