Emotionally, children are easily threatened by anyone bigger, older, or more confident than they are. Not yet possessing the well-developed defenses adults usually have, children’s sense of self is still fragile, vulnerable, and easily knocked down. For example, children often don’t understand the significant difference chronological age can make in their performance. Younger children may feel stupid because their older …

Whenever children feel threatened, instead of making them come to you, meet them at their safe place, and together from there move to new places. Remember, a path is usually neutral territory. Walking to a new place together provides a gentle way of being together, allowing to grow accustomed to each other. When I was about to begin tutoring a …

When I agree to be available to a child, I try to remember to present myself in such a way that the child knows I choose to be available specifically to him or her for this period of time. For me, when one of my daughters comes to be with me, this may mean hanging up the telephone, turning off …

Often the test of your concern comes in the form of behavior children know would be socially unacceptable. So be ready for it, except it, and recognize it as a situation with growth potential when it happens. It is important for children to know you would not reject them for their words or actions, and that your primary concern is …

The main point to remember here is that children in general, low self-esteemers in particular, tend to think they are the cause of their parents’ or teachers’ negative feelings. So, if you are angry or fearful because of something that happened outside the relationship with this child, keep those feelings out of this relationship. If your negative feelings are very …

अक्सर पेरैंट्स का सारा ध्यान बच्चों के पढाई में अव्वल आने पर ही केन्द्रित रहता है। यही वजह है कि बच्चे पढाई में तो अच्छे अंक ले लेते हैं लेकिन व्यवहारिक ज्ञान में पीछे रह जाते हैं। व्यवहारिक ज्ञान यानी परिस्थिति को सही तरीके से और स्मार्टली डीलर करने की कला। यह हर माता-पिता का कर्त्तव्य है कि वे बच्चों को …

Very often, women embarking on their first pregnancy are plagued with fears of the unknown. This is a first person account of a pregnant woman, anxious, eager and yet vulnerable. Last year, while holidaying in Europe, I conceived my first baby. I was not overjoyed, perhaps because both my husband and I, married for only six months, were not yet …

Common signs of teething are drooling, gnawing, biting, and general fussiness and irritability. Your child may feel slightly feverish at times, but no further serious illness should be attributed to teething. He needs more cuddling because of his discomfort, he may wake up more often at night and may want to sleep next to you. All this is part of …

Society and civilization are the two pillars that have made man a social animal. They have instilled humane emotions into mankind, that commonly do not exist in the wild, untamed animals. Man is capable of understanding a fellow human being’s pain. Foster care is one such outcome, that has promoted families to undertake child care, of the children who have …

When children come to you in a state of embarrassment or anxiety, don’t confront them with their feelings immediately. It’s better to spend time together in a gentle way until they regain their sense of self. Only when a climate of loving and caring has been clearly established are they usually ready to begin facing their strong emotions. Sometimes embarrassment …